Reconciliation
Saturday 9.30 am at St Thomas Aquinas Church, Bowral
BASED ON THE TEN COMMANDMENTS
I am the Lord your God: you shall not have strange Gods before me.
Have I treated people, events, or things as more important than God?
You shall not take the name of the Lord your God in vain.
Have my words, actively or passively, put down God, the Church, or people?
Remember to keep holy the Lord’s Day.
Do I go to Mass every Sunday (or Saturday Vigil) and on Holy Days of Obligation (Jan. 1; the Ascension; Aug. 15; Nov. 1; Dec. 8; Dec. 25)? Do I avoid, when possible, work that impedes worship to God, joy for the Lord’s Day, and proper relaxation of mind and body? Do I look for ways to spend time with family or in service on Sunday?
Honor your father and your mother.
Do I show my parents due respect? Do I seek to maintain good communication with my parents where possible? Do I criticize them for lacking skills I think they should have?
You shall not kill.
Have I harmed another through physical, verbal, or emotional means, including gossip or manipulation of any kind?
You shall not commit adultery.
Have I respected the physical and sexual dignity of others and of myself?
You shall not steal.
Have I taken or wasted time or resources that belonged to another?
You shall not bear false witness against your neighbor.
Have I gossiped, told lies, or embellished stories at the expense of another?
You shall not covet your neighbor’s spouse.
Have I honored my spouse with my full affection and exclusive love?
You shall not covet your neighbor’s goods.
Am I content with my own means and needs, or do I compare myself to others unnecessarily?
EXAMINATON OF CONCIENCE FOR ADULTS
Here are some thoughts that you may find helpful to examine your conscience.
BASED ON RELATIONSHIPS
My relationship with God:
Do I believe in God?/ Do I believe in a personal God?
Do I believe in a historical God who works with us today?
Do I ever simply "reflect:" or- "think" about God?
Do I think about God's purpose in creating the universe? In creating me?
Do I attempt to know more about God's revelation?
Do I believe that God's revelation is significant for me and the world? Am I ashamed to admit to "worldly people" that I am a man/woman of God.
Do I worship regularly? Do I sing and respond to the prayers of the Mass? Am I neighborly and courteous, unrushed and politely behaved?
Is Holy Eucharist a true encounter with Jesus, or simply a weekly ritual snack? Do I give my children an enthusiastic example about worship?
Is my spiritual life reserved to one hour on Sunday?
Do I take advantage of other services (daily Mass, home Mass, prayer group, devotions, etc.)?
Do I take time each day to pray? Do JI invite my family and co-workers to pray with me? Am I embarrassed to pray with others?
My relationship with others
Do I work as hard at my marriage as I do with my business?
Is my spouse my best friend, or am I living out the ghost of a past relationship?
Am I courageous enough to admit when I (or we) might need counseling to save or improve our marriage?
Am I a good person to live with. Am I courteous, helpful, gentle, sincere, understand? Do I remember birthdays, anniversaries, special occasions, romantic times, etc.?
Am I a good parent? Do I understand that discipline is a genuine form of love? Am I guilty of buying my children's affections, or substituting gifts for my own presence?
Do I listen to my children, take them seriously? Do I follow their progress closely in school, meet with teachers, encouraging them to be ready to move successfully out of the nest?
Am I a good worker? Do I give my best to the job?
Do I believe that quality enhances my personal worth before God, even if no one else sees what I do?
Am I honest? Do I award myself little "perks" against company policy?
If I am supervisory, do I strive to create an atmosphere that is both productive and constructive? Can I be frank and helpful to those under me?
Am I constantly working my own professional advancement and that of my employees?
Am I keeping abreast in my field? Do I pay my taxes? Do I provide sufficient benefits for my workers? Am I adequately insured and protected in the areas of health, life insurance, old age and home ownership?
Am I solicitous for my parents and grandparents? Do I remember all of my elderly relatives?
Conversely, do I butt out of the affairs of my married children and grandchildren unless I am specifically consulted?
Am I concerned about the quality of life in my community? Do I observe local laws? (zoning, air quality, etc.)
Am I concerned and outspoken about my local schools, police, human services, etc.?
Do I attempt to understand the insidiousness of racial problems? Do I too easily excuse myself from concern for the “truly needy?”
Am I concerned about universal problems like arms control, pollution, warfare, unemployment, etc.? Am reading and constantly learning about these subjects?
My relationship with myself
Do I live a well-ordered, healthy life? Do I eat well nutritionally, rest and exercise? Do I periodically see my physician?
Do I take vacations, broaden my experience and enrich my leisure through the arts, etc.?
Am I addicted to mindless forms of entertainment, like hours and hours of daily TV?
Are the uses of tobacco alcohol, drugs, food, etc. out of proportion with the rest of my life?
Am I careful about myself that I would reach out for help if I needed it?
Do I see my life as my greatest gift, and try to live each day to the fullest?